Now if yall became compatible then cool, shit do what you will, dont get wit someone just to have someone until/incase she gets her shit together. No man can trap you into being pregnant. George, dont chop any parts off. He wasn't hiding her before his fiance came over and his parents knew her too. I just have on question can my spouse has kids from a previous relationship( has to Baby mama's ) and they call him he hold conversations with them I don't know if it's about the kids because he will say things like yea she called me earlier today talking about this and that but if it was my daughter father calling me it's a problem but you can hold full blown conversations with both you bm's not to mention his 11 yrs older then me at times I don't know what to do or say to him without sounding childish or ridiculous but I hate the feeling that he's doing things behind myou back. Im talking to a guy that he has 2 kids with his high school sweetheart, he said he is divorced and when I asked him you still love her? Body language plays a key role in our daily lives. If that is the case then it would be likely that he would have shown signs of attraction around you and that he would only have said it once. I don't know how he expects to get anywhere with anyone just being the way he is . help? I think hes just doing all that that way I dont create drama for her to know how things happen! My bd and I were engaged before I got pregnant. He's bull****ting you. This is especially true in the sense that your co-parent, if not on good terms with you,and in some cases, still in love with you, could be a major impediment to future relationships. You know yall arent compatible, you know this. Really I feel sorry for the current and future women in my life, because I would drop them in a heartbeat to go back and try to make things work. Don't have kids unless your absolutely sure about your partner, and have had years to learn and understand them, otherwise theres a good chance your going to live a long life of unfulfilled mediocrity. The day after that, he had her bringing him to my subdivision. We were engaged and everything, so surely I don't deserve that title. Especially when u find someone who is better at loving you than anyone else was. All Rights Reserved. Once I forgave, the other I could not. The person who posted on here earlier this year. 15. Take for example. In short, she took away my ability to come home every day and see my daughter. I found he's having a BOY. He doesn't see it the same. 6 years ago. Some women find being called a baby mama offensive, so if you dont like it you should make that clear to your guy. He has a new woman and I Dnt interference am happy for him, me I haven't found mmthere right yet, and I'd never cheat or go back with my bby daddy as I look at him as a friend now father of my child nothing more, the thoughts iof ever having a intimate relationship sickens me. My son and his father broke up about two montha ago but about a month ago we started hanging out.I think he started to miss us. anyways I'm 100% wanting to get back together with him and I ask him well are we gonna be together now because your the only person is want to be with and he responds "we'll see" like what does that even mean. and I'm the one the broke up with him in the first place. I'd rather chop off my member and toss it in the tall grass to never be seen again than to entertain the thought of getting back with her. I made sure that all of her needs are met. 9. Me and him still have sex and she's still with him. Latest Boyfriend Calls Me Mommy updates. He tried to eat the bathtub But it wouldn't go down his throat. If the ex is the mother or father of their child, they will need to be in contact. But i am just being used once again. I'm feeling lost here with all these responses. Yes, if she finds out he's cheating, she will separate and go elsewhere (even though according to him, she's only staying with him because she had nowhere else to gosee any inconsistency in his story there???). Anyway he was hiding her they where going out to dinner together and the kids and I noticed the biggest diff when he was talking to her on a daily and he started doing way more then he ever did for them he ain't even do more for the other two he had with other ppl. you obviously got yourself pregnant on purpose as well. Your email address will not be published. After that i change dramatically and fell even more in love with her but she left me for another guy and lied about it. My boyfriend and I don't hang out for a long time because he has to go home so that the baby mama doesn't suspect anything. You should be ashamed of yourself. The father of my child knew I wasn't on birth control.. (which I'm not saying it's all his fault it does take two to tango) anyways I found out after I had our daughter by his family members that he had purposely gotten me pregnant so I wouldn't go back to an ex. I said you were gonna tell me when the baby is here ? He grew up a little bit and I grew some self-respect because I know that I deserve to be treated with nothing less. She cheated 2x. Ladies say NO! Meldee09 Follow. Additional troubleshooting information here. I went to the doctor to make sure I was straight. She had an agenda the whole time. Like a term of endearment. advice and career trends - and MadameNoire provides all of that. He doesn't text me constantly anymore like he used to, he has gone a day with out texting me and he just calls me the next day like nothing happened. I fully agree with you.Im 28 weeks pregnant and my baby daddy is seeing this gf which he lies to her all the time.We broke up few weeks ago but we still have sex.In all our chats and phone calls he still tells me he loves me and that what is important. Always pointing his feet at you when you're near. (Explained!). Unless there was not a relationship prior and the woman got pregnant by accident. My selfishness and taking her for granted pushed her away. They think that nothing bad can happen to them and that they were in love with each other. Ask yourself these questions first: 6. Anyone that talks about his ex ( negative or positive) still has feelings invested in the ex. I have been trying to help him with rides so he can get steady work and help me financially and just for hisself also. He thought I was cheating, which I never did. He compares you to her (ya'll could be in a constant competition because if he loves her, he values her more) 2. Your boyfriend may tell you he doesn't want to talk to her except to know if the kids are ok, he's lieing. Of course, this could be a sign that he's ready to settle down and take the next step in the relationship, but it could also be a . Doesn't mean they are not over their ex. Community Experts online right now. If he does call you mama because he wants to be more than just friends with you then it would be likely that hed show signs of liking you such as those above when he is around you. He's not a very social person through text so we really don't talk as often as I would like. i feel it is disrespectful to me. To have my daughter call my name and know that I'm only a few rooms away. If you love your man, make sure he will stand up for you when it comes to her and keep praying for her because these are the typical baby mama who end up having 4 or 5 kids for 3 to even 5 guys. I always give him the benefit of the doubt because i want to trust him but is he really loyal to me? She used me,abused, me publicly humiliated, me stole from me , lied regularly , and belittled me on a daily basis in private and publicly in front of men and women. For me, I don't think my boyfriend is "in love" with the mother of his children but he does have love for her and care for her for the simple fact she's the mother of his two kids. It may have been a silly pet name to call you after a couple beers. Dump him and go find a man who is available and proud to walk around with you as his girlfriend. Not good. I feel really bad for your situation see Im female though who has done nothing but stick by her man even though he's done nothing but treat me like shit, they way he talks to me, calls me every name under the sun, our son is one month old and I've jusy found that hes been messaging girls behind my back, this is the third time of him messaging girls and I really don't know what to do, I don't want my son to have a broken family but I've just got to the point where I think he will never change I've been loyal to him took him in and everytime we argue I feel bad in kicking him out because he has nowhere to go so today even though ive seen him message girls he's lay in my bed whilst I'm in the bath holding back tears wondering what I done wrong to be getting treated this way, This is some real ass shit, I swear if every man and woman was as straight up as this. She calls her boyfriend while cuckolding him! He told me he was sorry for all that happened he said I miss you. He's with her and he's with you. Oh and women, feel free also to give your advice/opinion. Your boyfriend and the mother of his child are still together. Er no. There is a lot to think about when dating a woman with kids. Easier said than done. She has no power and has been staying with me and the kids for the last couple of weeks. Additional troubleshooting information here. You've shown her she can get under your skin. If you are successful and dont let u or I get in the way of a rational conclusion than you will be just fine. Put your panties on and lay down the law. Thanks, See my bf and I have been dating and his ex/baby mama is about to give birth any day now to his son his son was not planned he was drunk that one night and she cheated on him multiple times but I still feel like the other women even though the only connection to her is his son which I except the baby just not her but I feel like crap because she could give him his first child and I cant Im scared I might lose to him to her In the future even though the only time they talk is about the baby about to be born I just dont know what to do anytime his mom calls she tell him about the baby but dislikes me because she feels Im the barrier between him and his ex getting back together and that I ruined a childs family future and everyone pissed at him for hooking up with me instead of being with her because they want the baby to have both parents and not parents with separate lovers so this entire time I feel like the devil in this situation the other women. 28:31. Y'all both getting played and you getting played worse than his new girl. Trust, If you truly love this dude then talk to your bd in private about the kids Men are very territorial and regardless if a woman has a bd or not they dont like other men talking to their women. She knows all about me and I know all about her but we never met in person and when I tried to reach out to her myself she told my bf that I messaged her .. she blocked me too. The mother and child could not come here without a sponsor. Said my mind's gone half crazy (Yeah) 'cause I can't leave you alone (And I just don't know) And I'm wonderin' if it's worth me holdin' on (I said I just don't know what to do now . We had such an amazing time , I felt loved , I felt good , I felt like this was finally coming together . She is 7 months and he is just not telling me and his family. Leaving boyfriend of 5 months due to baby mama spending night with him. As a step mom I believe it is my duty to take his kids in like my own. He didn't want to end the relationship and it's possible that he wishes he could rekindle it. He spent all last week at my house and of course we are physically attracted to each other so we have been having sex the whole time. It's a bit sad that you had to ask that question. Body Language Central IS A PARTICIPANT IN THE AMAZON SERVICES LLC ASSOCIATES PROGRAM. I was with mine for over 5 years and I wound up going to prison for 11 months! We do so good together and everything seems happy and healthy but everytime he comes back he's mad and tryna act like ive done something wrong. I still have the desire that I want my family back together. This is the beginning of her trying to make the relationship hell if he doesn't put a stop to it now it will continue to happen. Fast fwd hes married still hes out of jail and it took me a good 6 months before I came face to face with him. Copyright 1997-2022 LoveShack.org. I have happily moved on with my life. Now that's understandable, cheating game horrible and I strongly believe no woman should take away the father right wanting to spend time with their child. It isnt love. If he called you mama in front of people then it would either be the case that he naturally says it or that he was showing more overt attraction for you. And, if you dont like him using it as your pet name, you should also speak up and say something and Im sure hell stop. Man its like your the othe man in my situation except I don't talk bad about my sons mother, I disagree with mossgard. They been seprated since 2001. Or you can say you would tell his baby mama about your affair with him. Let him go. In the end the now wife told her that she was just 'keeping the bed warm', while she wasn't there. I keep hoping one day we can be together. Birth control is readily available. By If this is how he talks, its not going to be the only strange saying he has that youre going to get used to. When you go into a relationship with someone who has kids you into with the knowledge that there is an ex-wife/girlfriend and have to be open to certain issues which has to be discussed from the start. I was devastated and it all made since, but he took away my choice in this. By entering this site you declare That dont make my bm a side chick when im telling whoever im talking to that she comes 1st. Wife must learn to deal with mother of husband's child. (I dont recommend that girlfriends try and contact or interact with the co-parents unless its about the well-being of the child. If he doesn't do it, let him go.hard as it may be you will be better off not having to share someone. Long story short I end up coming home Monday , and something tells me to go on Facebook and her page. If he only calls you mama, he is around the same age as you and he changes his body language and behavior in a positive way when you are around then it would be likely that he is attracted to you. But as always, thats just my opinion. Now that's the baby momma. Wear granny panties to bed. i have the same problem, i had this boy his name is lebo at first he told me that his not with the baby mama and out of the blue he told me the baby mama is back in his life.i stoped calling him and he called to ask me to give him R100.what can i do. I know this is an older thread but hopefully you can reply. My Husband and I have been married since 2008. I literally cry everyday . I'll just find somebody else to have my son." Take this advice from a woman who is married to a man who has a evil baby mama; just remember everything will work out for the good if your man stand firm when dealing with her and don't give in to her stupid games. February 12, 2021 at 9:06 am Cadbury. Step 1. I felt bad because in that moment she realized that I'm not the monster he painted me out to be. He wants to keep you locked down. PERIOD!! On another note, my bd cheated and had a bust-it-baby at the end of our relationship. It's amazing that in todays day and age 2014 girls are still falling for this scam (he's making a fool of you using you abusing you and your blaming his wife)! I thought we could come to a mutual agreement for the child. Married men especially from Africa and South America with girlfriends here. Smh.. all I see is worthless woman thinking she's it..lol. Heres How to Tell Your Roommate to Clean the Bathroom! The SSL certificate presented by the server did not pass validation. Apparently he travels a lot working, leaving little time for him to spend with his son. This has been going on for over a year and I feel bad for the girl who has no idea or maybe suspecta like you and I know how that feels as he was lying to me when he was cheating on me with her. I am ****ed but guess what.